IFS Therapy and Coaching

More than coping. Fully living.

You don't just want tools. You want real change.

If you have struggled with anxiety, overthinking, or feeling stuck, you may have already tried to manage it. You may understand your patterns. You may even know why you feel the way you do. But in the moment, it still takes over. That is where this work is different.

What is IFS?

Internal Family Systems (IFS) is an approach that helps you understand and work with the different "parts" of you that shape how you think, feel, and respond. There may be a part of you that worries and overthinks. A logical part that tries to remind anxious parts that you're ok. Another part that tries to stay in control. Another part that feels unsure or not good enough. Most people experience this internally, even if they have never put words to it. IFS helps you slow down and relate to these parts in a new way so they do not have to take over.

Why this approach works

Many approaches focus on managing thoughts or changing behavior. IFS works at a deeper level.

These “parts” are not random. They are patterns in your brain that developed for a reason, often earlier in life, even if they no longer fit who you are now. Because of this, simply telling yourself to think differently usually does not create lasting change.

In this work, we help those patterns update. This process is known as Memory Reconsolidation, the neural process that allows existing networks to be updated. That is the goal of both IFS and EMDR. To update old neural networks so that patterns of automatically thinking, feeling, and reacting can change.

As this happens, your responses become more grounded in your present reality, not shaped by past experiences.

You do not have to fight yourself in the same way. You can live more fully as your authentic self.

What sessions are like

Sessions are collaborative, focused, and grounded. At times, we may guide you to notice what is happening internally and get curious about it. You might begin to recognize different parts of yourself and how they interact. Some clients find it helpful to picture this as different parts sitting around a table, with a calmer, more grounded version of themselves leading the conversation. You are not forced to relive anything or pushed faster than you are ready for. The pace is intentional, and the focus is on helping you feel more clear, steady, and connected to yourself.

How this helps with anxiety

With anxiety, there is often fear or panic in the body, worry over worst-case scenarios, and a part that tries to stay in control and manage everything. These parts are often working very hard, but not in a way that creates relief. In this work, we help those parts feel safer and less reactive. Over time, this can lead to less overthinking, a calmer nervous system, more confidence in yourself, and less internal conflict. This is how anxiety begins to shift at the root.

What IFS can help with

IFS can be effective for a wide range of experiences, including anxiety and overthinking, self-doubt and low confidence, difficult life transitions, grief and loss, trauma and past experiences that still affect you, panic attacks, OCD - obsessive thoughts and compulsive behaviors, phobias and fears.

Therapy and coaching options

We both use IFS as a core part of our work. Kathryn integrates IFS with EMDR to work at a deeper clinical level, including trauma, OCD, panic, and phobias. Charles uses IFS-informed coaching to help with anxiety, overthinking, self-doubt, and performance. This allows you to choose the level and type of support that fits your needs.

This work is personal for us.

We do not just use this approach professionally. We have both experienced IFS ourselves as clients. Through that process, we have each experienced meaningful, lasting changes in how we relate to our thoughts, emotions, and sense of self. That experience shapes how we show up in this work.

Our training in IFS

We have both completed formal training through the IFS Institute. Kathryn is a Level 2 trained IFS therapist and has completed additional advanced training in applying IFS to anxiety and trauma. We combine this training with our own direct experience of doing this work ourselves, which shapes how we guide clients through the process.

You can feel different, not just manage better

This work is not about constantly trying to control your thoughts or push through discomfort. It is about creating a shift in how your system responds, so you can feel more calm, more clear, and more like yourself.